Take it as corny if you like, but the concept of marriage (basically what you're talking about here) exists on a foundation of mutual sacrafice of self for the other partner.
I would say that if you're still at a place where you value "that one sanctuary" and all it offers you, moving in with this woman and her children is a bad idea.
It's my opinion that the matter shouldn't be taken lightly at all (and obviously you're not taking it lightly); rather, the commitment to live together should be considered only after marriage. If one or both parties are not ready to make that level of commitment, it's probably a bad idea.
Granted, there's always the possibility that it would grow on you, but there is too much at stake to take that risk (e.g. the emotional stablility of her children). Like I said, marriage = self-sacrifice. Consider what is best for Dawn's children, then what's best for Dawn, then what's best for you. If you realize you're not ready to place their needs before your own (and I'm not saying that it'd be a bad thing, necessarily, if you're not), then don't move in.
Wish you well, Ryan. I hope this turns out well for all of you.
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